Friday, May 16, 2008


The moment i arrived in the U.K the first thing that hit my consciousness was the cold. The second was the fact that everyone seemed to be coupled, cuddling, kissing or chatting. Even the birds and rabbits seemed to be in pairs. At that moment i realised i was alone, all by my self, away from everyone and everything i am familiar with. So i made up my mind to make friends and what an adventure it has been.

I moved into my comfy flat and was glad to meet new people, my flatmates. Nice and friendly they are and the chances of us being fast friends seemed sure until they dropped hints that they are lesbians. The nastiest sights i have seen is ladies french kissing, and it is now a sight i behold daily. The door to that friendship was immediately shut. When you've tasted the lips of a man, you cant just help thinking kissing a woman is crazy. LoL

So i met a group of three from class, interesting people and we became fast friends. But i eventually had to break off because i discovered the friendship wasn't adding to me or multiplying me, it was dividing and subtracting me. I wasn't growing. I mean, one of them doesn't even believe in God. My initial action was to try to change the person's mind and we would end up in ceaseless arguments. I then realised that i cant change a person, only God can do that. Since i just wasn't feeling the friendship anymore, because we weren't on the same realm, i put a full stop to it.

Then this guy came along and we became good friends. I finally felt i had a friend. We would chat and share thoughts and ideas, i would gist him about all the guys that make passes at me, we seemed to be on the same realm. Eventually sha, the guy says he's fallen in love with me. In luv ke? I immediately told him it cant work cuz i love someone else. My last post was about feeding attraction....i was chatting away about my friend, the same scenario seemed to be playing out around me. Anyway, we still remained friends but guy still keeps keeping faith that something will happen. Recently, i had to break off the friendship cuz it just is not healthy, it was a bit painful to do, cuz i enjoyed being friends with the guy.
I have tried making friends in church. The single ladies are after the single guys and any female new comer is seen as potential threat. The married ladies have glazed smiles as they eye their husbands to make sure they are not making eye contact will any lady. Women don't trust women, so the room for genuine friendship is slim.
My classmates want to be friends with me cuz they think in their words that i am smart, they need a 'machinery'. The black guys i have met want to be friends with me cuz they are looking for free food, and maybe more, which they can never get, by God's grace. The white guys i have met want to be friends with me cuz they think in their words that i am hot, lustiest set of people. The single ladies in church don't wanna be friends with me cuz they think i am a potential threat, if only they knew i am in a relationship already. Married women can afford to relax, because i believe what you sow is what you reap, what would i need a pot bellied married man for anyway?

Right now, i just dey. Everyman for himself and God for us all.
Dr. ONB, i have heeded your summons o, i dont want your green eyes (in your dreams) turning to red. LoL

I have titled this post Untitled because i cant think of any title. I'm open to suggestions.

Luv always.

Holla back!


tobenna said...

Interesting commentary, BK.
You are in a predicament aren't you?
So, who will be your friend?

Anonymous said...

I guess you can title it LIFE. Its always good to be aware of happenings around you- the kissing, cuddling are not something you see regularly in the bush where you come from.LoL... so I’m sure u must have been looking like a bush girl then u started feeling lonely (don’t mind me just having a laugh) and thought you needed friends when you already have a lot and u have not fully utilised them. What I think you need is acquaintances. Meet everybody that comes your way- be friendly to everyone get to know them- the lesbians, the negative folks, unbelievers, numerous admirers, married men, single ladies, married ladies, everyone but make sure you don’t compromise your values and beliefs. Always stand your grounds. Make yourself a solid brand but be willing to learn new things. Remain teachable and be a person of integrity. If there is nothing that you can possibly gain now or in the future from the acquaintance then you know what to do. Having said all be careful there is a saying “if you don’t want the devils fruit you stay out of his orchard”. You don’t have to get to close to someone before you really know what they are, what they want or what common values you share. Another thing in as much as you want to make new friends be very careful of nice guys. Most times “we” are nice because of what we want. If that your friends faith is as small as a mustard seed he will get what he keeps saying. Hope you understand what I mean?

Okay enough of being I….I think it will be a beautiful sight to see ladies making out! What do you mean by it’s the nastiest thing you have seen. Can you imagine guys making out? YAWK!!! What an awful sight it will be.

Anonymous said...

That is life. We have to live and adjust to but patience will be the key. Ur friend will come, I assure u. Best of luck

Bufoe said...

Bukenzo, i think u're a lil' one sided ... i mean... uve only tasted the lips of a man,i recommend u try dat a of a woman before u draw ur conclusion.

30+ said...

Which kain anon is this that leaves long message.

@Bufoe, well did you have to taste shit to draw conclusion that it is not your choice of main dish or sleep with your siblings before deciding they are not it for you. It is unnatural shikena.

@Bukenzo, well I agree with Anon 7:25, the title of the post should be that is life.

At least you have some friends on blogville :). P.S It was my birthday on Monday o and I am still waiting for your special wishes/prayer.

Allied said...

lol at 30+. that is a befitting answer.

Bukenzo, do you want to be my friend?

Bukenzo said...

@Tobena, thanks for dropping by, will check u up.
@Anon 6:24,Thanks for longing the story, but i get the gist.
@Anon 7:25,Life is a beautiful title, thank you.
@Bufoe, 30+ has answered you so well.
@30+, thank u, and happy birthday again.

Luv u all.

Bukenzo said...

Why not? thanks for offering, ur sweet as usual.

Orientatednaijababe said...

hello friend, thanks for ur prayers oh!! The hardest part of my exam is over, just one more on tuesday and it will be finally over. Get the result on Wednesday.

How have u been??? U on facebook??

tobenna said...


Allied said...

where are u?

simeone said...

hi...bukenzo...just found you...,and can see you havn't updated in a while...pls try ..would like to read from you...

moses said...

Hello bukenzo! Thanks for knowing the fact that to be committed is to let go many opportunities and you have prove to the whole world that you are faithful.
"How I wish I had someone to truth."

THIRTY + said...

Hey sweetie long time, how you dey?

Saw you comment and I flew here with concord hoping to find a new post.

Glad to hear from you, kpele and do take care of yourself.